Have you ever noticed how people will say things when they are mad that they do not really mean.   Many times people do not take the time to think about how what they say will effect others.   Like when I was a kid it was near Christmas time my sister had fallen and cut her knew.   A few days later there was a kid going door to door selling cans of hard tack candy for $3 each.   My little brother and I were so happy when she bought us a can of it (we did not get much candy in them days cause we did not have a lot of money).   I loved my sister so much for doing that for us my happiness lasted about 10 min.   I heard her tell my mother she used her bandage money to get the candy .   It made me want to cry.   If she needed the money to get bandages for her knee why would she buy us candy with it?   Her knee was more important, but what really hurt was her saying that after she made the decision to do it.   To this day I do not know if she bought the candy because she wanted to do something nice for us or if she did it so she could play the martyr.   To this day I rarely ask that sister for anything.   What she said is burned into my heart. 

     I had a couple friends one time they were fighting over a toy I had got one of the children.   The child was too attacked to it and the daddy was worried about it.   He wanted to take it away from the baby part of the time so the attachment would not be so great.   The mother told him if he did she would just get me to give the baby another one.  But where she over stepped the line was when she referred to me as the babies god mother and told the daddy I was more a godmother to the baby when he was a daddy.   I got really mad at the mom I told her she would not use me to hurt her babies daddy.

     This is a common thing many people will say things in anger they do not mean.   I was recently told something someone had said to their lover during a fight.   It cut so deeply, and the sad part of it is I know it was not meant how it was said and how it was taken, because of something the other lover had said to me just days ago.    The sad part is even thought I know what was said was not meant I can not get involved in it because it would cause more stress between them.   So I have to keep what I know to myself. 

     People need to realize  when you say something in anger even if you did not really mean what you say it can cut a slit in someone else's heart that will never heal. The scar will be there forever.