Then I have the friends I can count on when I am at my weakest when I need someone to help hold me together when I am falling apart. I have been truly blessed in this area. I have a few friends that are awesome. I do not know what I ever did to deserve such wonderful friends, but I thank the lord for giving them to me.
Then there are the friends that the relationship has not always ran smooth, but when all was said and done we worked through it to remain standing together. It is one such friend I want to talk about today. I first met her in 2007 in of all places an on line pool league. We became friends pretty fast, then she got involved with some people that caused her to make some bad choices, and we had a big fight that lasted about 6 months, I did not even want to talk to her, but one day she showed up in a room I was playing in and told me she was sorry and asked me to forgive her. I was still mad but fact is I did miss her too, so I told her that I could forgive her if she did 2 things to prove she was sorry. She did both things I asked her to and we have not fought again sense that. It meant very much to me that she valued my friendship to do the 2 things I asked her to do. The one thing had to have been hard for her, but it had to be done if I was to allow any myself to forgive her. When a friend values you enough to do what you need them to do to forgive them, this is a true friend and someone you should keep. We came to some agreements and our friendship is stronger now then it ever was.
I find it funny that there is someone trying to turn her against me again. It is not going to work!! I know I can trust her to not believe any lies anyone tells her on me .
That was one of the things she and I agreed to when we rebuilt our friendship, neither of us would lie about anything we really did if the other asks us about it. We have held that solid and strong, and as a result our friendship is built high on a rock foundation. I wish I had this strong a friendship with all those I once called friend. Fact is one year ago next month someone I cared very much about turned her back on me, and I have to admit it was my fault she got angry at me, but a real friend would not have shut me out. I have had a couple people I am still friends with cuss me out a few times. lol But when we are done fighting the friendship is still there. It is as I told one of my friends years ago when she was trying to change another friend of outs. I knew it was not possible this guy has an iron will back then. I told her you either accept your friends how they are or you go find new friends. Apparently the friend I lost a year ago could not accept me as I am.
I know only too well I am not the easiest person to get along with sometimes, but my real friends the ones I know love me and the ones I know I can count on may get mad and yell at me when I am worked up will not turn their back on me.
Everyone needs friends. The trick is to choose friends that will accept you as you are and to make sure you do not try to change them, or drop them for being themselves. Bottom line friendship is a 2 way street.
