I had someone send me a friend request today. I will not mention who as I deleted him less then an hr later. He imed me asked what I was doing and where I was at I told him I was playing pool and I was in the USA. This was not good enough for him upon me telling him I was in the USA he called me a liar and jumped to the conclusion I was no where near the USA. NO ONE CALLS ME A LIAR when I am not lying. So I deleted him. He is an idiot. Anyone that assumes you are lying just because you do not want them to know exactly where you live is not playing with a full deck. Many of the people on my friends list know exactly where I live. They know this because they have put the time into getting to know me and waited till I was ready to tell them where I live. Part of the reason I did not tell this guy the exact state I live in is he had on his profile he was looking for a relationship, and those of you that really know me know I am already in one, so why would I need a guy that was looking for a relationship to know where I live.
The only reason I am even wasting my time writing this is because I feel every woman has the right to protect herself from online predators in any way she sees fit. Saying I live in the USA is not a lie. It is just not as much info as he wanted, and because he did not get his way he dubbed me a liar. Something else that set my defense mode off was the way he addressed me when he imed me. He said hello gorgeous. He had no way of knowing what I looked like because as you all know I do not have 1 single picture of the real me on this profile. In fact having had my favorite picture of me stolen not once but twice and used for things I did not like I am very careful about who even gets to see my real picture. Last time I had a picture of myself on a web page was 2008. I had one on the league page for a league I was staff in at the time. When it was brought to my attention a woman or ill-reputed had stolen it and was using it to cyber in lobbies of pool rooms I pulled it from the page and have NEVER allowed any of my pictures to be put on any websites again. When someone you have just met asks too many personal questions it should set off a red flag every time. Do not be afraid to say no you can not have that info if you do not trust the person asking the question.
Let me tell you a story that happened in my real life. There was this guy that worked at the local grocery store and he kept making passes at me. He wanted to know where I lived, and every time he asked I would answer not far or near by without actually giving him any info of direction or address. I could have complained to his boss, but I did not want to take the chance of getting him fired, so I just kept sidestepping his advances. One day I was shopping with my sister-in-law and she heard him ask where I lived. She told him where I lived without me knowing it! Imation my surprise when he showed up on my street. Luckily I was not at my house when I saw him, and did not go home till he left. I asked him how he found me, and when he said my sister-in-law had told him I was furious with her. It took me 2 times of him showing up in my neighborhood to get him to stop. I asked him why he was putting so much energy into trying ot get to know a girl that has not showed him any attention. I hated to hurt his feelings but it worked. I told my sister-in-law if it had not worked her husband ( my brother ) would get to explain it to him and that I would be sure and tell him she was the one that caused it when I did not want this guy to know where I lived. I told her if I had wanted him to know I would have told him myself and for her to NEVER DO THAT AGAIN. So do you see why I am so cautious?
