I once heard it said on a tv show that in a relationship one person is the flower and gets tended and the other is the gardener and does the tending. I wonder how many people that saw that really knew what he was saying. Lately I feel like I am standing in a big flower bed. All the flowers needing my attention. Water me, prune me, weed me, they all call out to me wanting my attention right now. I am but one person and although I quite like the role of the gardener, because they make beautiful things grow from the dirt. Lately I am exhausted. My flower garden is getting bigger by the day and I have trouble neglecting any of the, because they are all special in their own way.
The ironic part of this is that on at least 3 occasions over the years I have been told I make everything about me. What I found interesting is in all 3 of those occasions the person saying it and I had been arguing on different matters. Which makes me wonder if what they said was true or if they just said it trying to hurt my feelings lol guess I will never know. One of the people who said it walked out of my life a couple years ago and another is dead now. It was very sad she died way too young. She was not very nice and karma finally got her. I know you should not speak ill of the dead because they are not here to defend themselves and I myself may get a little bad karma for doing it. But can someone tell me how dying makes someone a good person that you should not speak ill of it they were really evil when they were alive. Does dying give you a life history transplant? It is like he was a sob when he was alive but now that he is dead he is a great guy and we will all miss him. But I digress lol.
Back to the flower gardener thing. Have you ever noticed some weeds look like actual flowers? Like the Johnny jump ups they look like miniature violates, but if they are left unchecked they get huge leaves that push out everything, I know this because I love Johnny jump ups so I dug one up out of the yard one year and put it in my flower bed. The next year it had spread all over the bed and the leaves had grown to a foot long. YES Johnny jump ups leaves can get that big if you do not cut them. It is actually odd to see these great big leaves with the tiny pansy looking flowers. My sister was shocked to find they got that big if you do not cut them off. Now my point with some flowers looking like weeds it is hard to tell which is which sometimes and which should be nourished and which should be pulled out.
If any of what I just said makes any sense to you I would advise you keep your eyes open for weeds masquerading as flowers when you tend your garden of friends. And donor get stabbed by any thorns from your rose garden.
