From time to time I will use my blog to vent when something annoys me. This is one of those times. I hate it when someone wants me to know something and then instead of telling me it directly they go through someone else. I have little respect for the person that can not come to my face if they want to tell me I am doing something they do not like. I will give you an example. When my nephews were small I was babysitting them, and they were not listening. The older one kept telling the little one to do something he could get hurt doing and he did it. The little one was not listening to me when I told him to stop and the older one was not listening when I told him not to tell his brother to do that because he could get hurt. So I swatted the older one on the butt 1 time and told him again to quit telling his brother to do things he could get hurt at. Apparently my sister-in-law had never spanked him, because he cried and was still crying when she got home. She asked why he was crying I told her exactly why. She went to him, and babied him up. Instead of telling me herself she was unhappy with what I did , she went to my brother and had him tell me. This made me very angry. Had she told me herself we would have discussed it and what he was doing when I swatted him, and there would have been no hard feelings. BUT by her putting my brother/her husband in the middle I got very angry and had little respect for her for years after. I told my brother it is not the fact you did not want him spanked that I am mad about it is the fact she did not have the backbone to tell me herself.
How can anyone have respect for someone that does not respect them enough to talk directly to them if they do something that bothers them? And how can you not get mad at the go between person for not telling the one complaining to take it up with the person that bothered them their self? I had a brother-in-law that I butted heads with a lot, but I always respected him because he would always tell me to my face if I did something he did not like. People that respect you enough to speak directly to you are worthy of your respect even if you do not like what they say. Those that do not respect you enough to tell you what they want you to know one on one are not worthy of your respect.
Hopefully people will get the meaning of this and if they have anything they want me told TELL ME THEM SELVES, because I have a tendency to not be too nice to the go between.
